Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
You’re not alone
If you’re reading this and it feels a little too familiar, I see you. I am here for you.
Deep down you know something’s wrong. You feel it in your gut, this overwhelming sense of sadness at how you even got into this situation. You’re in a relationship that looks great from the outside, but behind closed doors you feel trapped with no escape.
One minute he’s showering you with affection. The next, he’s tearing you apart with words that cut deeper than any bruise, and you’re told you’re “too sensitive”, “too dramatic”, “too needy”. And somehow, every fight ends with you apologising, even when you did nothing wrong.
This isn’t love, my darling. It’s calculated control. It’s a form of psychological warfare and abuse that often leaves no visible scars but destroys you from the inside out, making you doubt your own reality, while the rest of the world sees nothing.
I know this not just from a textbook, I have lived it too. I was trapped in a narcissistic relationship for years and it absolutely destroyed me. On average it takes seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship; it took me five. Five times I went back to the abuse because I believed the scraps of “good” moments would last. Five times I silenced myself and my voice. And when I finally left for good, I knew I had to turn my survival into purpose to help women, like you, leave safely, heal fully, and never repeat the cycle again.
Narcissistic abuse is family and domestic violence. It is not “just a toxic relationship”. The chokehold is invisible to everyone except you, and it is extremely damaging.
Are you experiencing these behaviours?
Here is a high-level list of some of the common behaviours. You do not need all of these for it to be real. One is enough.
• Love bombing, fast intensity, big promises, future talk that never becomes reality.
• Gaslighting, rewriting events, “you are too sensitive”, “that never happened”.
• Devaluation after the high. Hot then cold. You keep chasing the person from the beginning.
• Silent treatment, stonewalling, withholding affection to punish you.
• Jealousy used as control. Accusations, rules that only apply to you.
• Isolation from friends and family. Smear campaigns and lies about you.
• Monitoring devices, checking your phone, financial control.
• Rage outbursts or sulks that make you manage their emotions.
• Cheating, triangulation, blame shifting, zero empathy.
• You walk on eggshells, feel confused, ashamed, and addicted to the highs.
Leaving a narcissist needs to be highly strategic…
In my sessions with survivors of narcissistic abuse (whether they’re currently in a relationship or recovering from one), I don’t skim the surface. I go straight to the root, the trauma bond, the fear, the self-doubt, the shame. My sessions are about four things:
• Naming what’s happening.
Abuse hides in confusion. Once you see it clearly, you stop blaming yourself.
• Rebuilding your voice.
We work through boundaries, self-trust, and saying “no” without guilt.
• Breaking the cycle.
Leaving is one thing. Staying free is another. I help you do both safely, strategically, and with support. Your exit plan needs to be solid.
• Recovering your self-worth.
Abuse fractures you, but it does not define you. There is a lot of healing to be done after leaving a narcissistic relationship and I support you through this journey.
This isn’t one-size-fits-all coaching. Every woman’s situation is different…
This coaching journey is tailored deeply to you and your story. Your recovery plan is built to support you and your individual situation. My role is to guide you step by step, first to ensure you’re safe, then to heal, then to rebuild. I will never tell you comforting lies. A narcissist will not change. But you can. And when you do, everything shifts.
• Sessions are 1:1, online and confidential.
• I offer a reduced rate for these sessions, because it is so important you’re able to access this support.
• There is no lock-in sessions or minimum commitment as I understand it’s hard to access support when there is financial control at play.
• I don’t hand you “tips” to try alone. We work together, stage by stage, until you feel steady on your own two feet again.
You don’t have to stay silent. You don’t have to stay stuck.
Abuse thrives in silence. By staying quiet, by absorbing the abuse and thinking you can’t use your voice and speak about it and leave, all you’re doing is giving abuse more power. You’ve got to take action.
Please remember, there is an entire life waiting for you that you don’t even know exists. A life where you feel safe, valued, and finally free. I know it’s hard to picture right now but I’m a living example of how free and happy you can be on the other side.
Book your FREE 15-minute Discovery Call. I’d love to speak with you and get to know your story. I’ll listen, and I’ll explain how I can help. No pressure, no judgment.
FREE Resources are also available:
If you are in immediate danger, please call 000.
For confidential support:
1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732
Lifeline 13 11 14
Book Your Free Discovery Call
Book your FREE 15-minute Discovery Call. I’d love to speak with you and get to know your story. I’ll listen, and I’ll explain how I can help. No pressure, no judgment.
Renee Brown
Frequently Asked Questions
I want to leave but I’m scared. Where do I start?
We build a discreet, step-by-step exit plan: safety first (documents, money, devices),
support network, timing, and legal referrals if needed. You do not have to do it alone.
Can you work with me if I’m still in the relationship?
Yes I work with individuals that are still in their relationship as well as those that have left and looking to heal. Let me be clear, if you are in a relationship with a true narcissist there is no staying, you do need to leave for your safety and sanity.
Do I have to go “no contact”?
Where safe, yes, no contact is most effective option once we have implemented your exit strategy. If you share property/children or safety is a concern, we use low-contact with strict boundaries, documentation, and third-party tools.
What if we have children together?
We create a co-parenting/parallel-parenting plan to reduce conflict, set communication rules, and document interactions. I can suggest legal and DV services for specialised guidance if applicable.
Will you speak to my partner?
No. My role is your safety and recovery. I do not mediate with partners.
Do you work with men / LGBTQ+ clients?
Yes. Abuse is not gender- or orientation-specific. My approach is inclusive and tailored to your lived experience.
What does it cost, and do you offer reduced rates?
I offer a reduced rate for narcissistic-abuse recovery to ensure it’s as accessible as possible to those that need it. We can discuss options in your free call.
Is there a minimum commitment?
No. I keep this flexible because financial control is common in narcissistic relationships. We’ll build a plan that fits your situation.
How long will this process take?
Surviving narcissistic abuse is a journey that requires courage and resilience. Recovery isn’t linear. You may move back and forth between stages, and that’s okay. Be patient and gentle with yourself. Support from professionals, support groups, and loved ones can make this journey smoother.